Agrarian Nation: —1877—Rules For MakingA Husband Happy

30 December 2011

—1877—
Rules For Making
A Husband Happy

#77

Rules For Making a Husband Happy

—Show that you are anxious to avoid waste, and to be faithful in your department of labor.

—Do not neglect neatness of person and surroundings.
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—Never speak slightingly or bitterly of or to your husband, especially in the presence of other people.

—When your feelings have been hurt, do not allow your thoughts to dwell upon the injury, but resolutely banish it from your mind, and do some kindness in return.
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—Speak gently always, and do not allow your voice to become sharp and loud. Control of the voice helps to control the temper.
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—Try to do not only what your husband wishes in household matters, but also when and how he wishes.
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[Thomas’s Farmer's Almanac]

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Rules For Making a Wife Happy

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4 comments:

Chefkimnc said...: Excellent advice. I'm sure my husband would agree.; 31 December, 2011 11:01
Deborah said...: It is excellent advice. I read it to my husband and he said "I can see how those things would make a husband happy." I need to work on a couple... haha; 31 December, 2011 13:07
Anonymous said...: Something to give to girls who hope to marry one day. Great list for all of us! Jennifer in western NC; 01 January, 2012 12:41
Unknown said...: thanks for post these! I don't know if I like them as much as the wife pleasing ones :) I too have a few to work on....; 02 January, 2012 17:53

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How did people in rural New England live and work before electricity and tractors arrived on the scene? This web site will seek to answer that question by looking at the old agricultural writings of 1825 to 1900.

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"From the beginning it was always possible to find farmers who were intuitively suspicious of the industrialization of agriculture. Perhaps they objected to the increased authority of suppliers and experts. Perhaps they felt the discord between machinery and living creatures. Perhaps they had a rational fear of toxic chemicals. Perhaps they disliked paying cash for energy and fertility that they had previously received in kind from their farms and their good work. Among at least a few, for whatever reasons, there was a persistent distrust."
—Wendell Berry

This field, which when the owner took it over eight years previously was barren, now was bursting with life. As I passed alongside of it on the cart, getting a good view of it as a whole, I often thought of the latent power that lay there till released and channelled by man. Nothing to see on that former dry and barren field, save tangled yellowish grass: yet holding within it the force to throw upward what I now beheld. A farmer is a liberator of the energy in the earth, ceaselessly creating what is good, and adding on a vast scale to the beauty of the world.
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John Stewart Collis
The Worm Forgives The Plough

"Through World War II, farm life in my region (and, I think, nearly everywhere) rested solidly upon the garden, dairy, poultry flock, and meat animals that fed the farm’s family. Especially in hard times farm families, and their farms, survived by means of their subsistence economy. The industrial program, on the contrary, suggested that it was “uneconomic” for a farm family to produce its own food; the effort and the land would be better applied to commercial production. The result is utterly strange in human experience: farm families that buy everything they eat at the store."

Wendell Berry
(Renewing Husbandry)

A love for the soil and all the pursuits of outdoor life is one of the most healthful signs in a people. Our broad and diversified land affords abundant opportunity for the gratification of every rural taste, and those who form such tastes will never complain that life is losing its zest. Other pleasures pall with time and are satiated. We outgrow them. But every spring is a new revelation, every summer a fresh, original chapter of experience, and every autumn a fruition of hopes as well as of seeds and buds. Nothing can conduce more to happiness and prosperity than multitudes of rural homes. In such abodes you will not find Socialists, Nihilists, and other hare-brained reformers who seek to improve the world by ignoring nature and common sense. Possession of the soil makes a man conservative, while he, at the same time, is conserved.

E.P. Roe